Wrinkles

Women are afraid of wrinkles. Not sure about men because they won't admit to so many things in any case, and tend to keep their fears under wraps.For women, it is the first sign they are aging, that they will not be as desirable, as attractive as they were in the effortless bloom of youth. The face is slowly wilting, drying, losing lustre and vitality. Men also think that a more youthful appearance and a tauter body is more attractive. Perhaps it is, in a basic, carnal way. But there is another dimension to attraction , which resides in the soul , the mind, and the heartWomen are afraid of wrinkles. Not sure about men because they won't admit to so many things in any case, and tend to keep their fears under wraps.For women, it is the first sign they are aging, that they will not be as desirable, as attractive as they were in the effortless bloom of youth. The face is slowly wilting, drying, losing lustre and vitality. Men also think that a more youthful appearance and a tauter body is more attractive. Perhaps it is, in a basic, carnal way. But there is another dimension to attraction , which resides in the soul , the mind, and the heart. Wrinkles do not affect it at all. 

Memories are embedded in wrinkles. Memories and experiences. The life that we have lived keeps writing on our face, laugh line by laugh line for happy times, wrinkles for cares and strings that we have felt and sustained. Like life, we can see wrinkles any way we want to, lines if we are thinking wistfully, laugh lines if we look back happily. Each feeling, each struggle, each ordeal is engraved on our face. The fights that we have won and lost, the ideals that we stood for, successfully or unsuccessfully, the life we have lived, sometimes happy,sometimes difficult, the people we have loved, adored, cherished and despised, felt envious of, tried to hurt, or those that hurt us. They leave their imprint. Why do we then try to hide these wrinkles? Why do we use creams, treatments, even botox to make them disappear? Why do we strive so hard to keep our faces looking like the clean slate of a baby's mind? We like to hide all the ravages of time and travail, and present to the world an innocent, untouched countenance, not sullied by experiences, not damaged by hurt. Fresh as ever and open to new experiences. perhaps that is why we hide wrinkles, because we do not want to appear like damaged goods that nobody would want. It is true, who would want to write on a slate already cramped with writing by others? We would have to wipe it clean, to start a new story on it. 

Those who look back on a life well lived, stages of life successfully passed, do not want to stay at a particular stage. They are done with it and have evolved. But those who feel they have not been able to make a success of some part of their life, they want to do it over, so they try to make themselves over too, to match their efforts. They do not deserve pity, it is just that they want to make a go of it. But nothing makes a person more attractive than ones who embrace their past life, wrinkles and all, and feels confident of themselves for the future also. If you have lived, your experiences just add to your mystique, they add depth to your personality. Embracing your past, whatever it was, engraved on your face as wrinkles, is the only way to face the future with confidence and poise. I look forward to wrinkles as they come with new feelings, new experiences, reflecting the life force that is never still.