Love Is

When I was a young girl, I read somewhere that Love is not only looking at each other, love is looking together in the same direction. I thought this must be true, seemed like a reasonable definition of similar dispositions enjoying a quiet life together, looking in the same directions, having the same world view and plans for the future, and living together because they are no conflicts. All my life I looked for this kind of an understanding, and in the process, made lots of friends. Because, this approach makes friends, and friendships have all these ingredients: they have fun together too. But friendship is not love. Whatever people say, friendship is NOT love. Somebody was saying love is friendship set on fire. I was forced to discard this mumbo jumbo when I fell in love a few years ago. And now all I can say is, you are lucky if you can be friends with your love, but you can love somebody more than life itself and not be friends with him. So I have clarified what love isn't.  More difficult to define what love actually is.

Love is basic,love is instinctual, love is primal. It has to do with skin, smell, taste,chemistry, heartbeat going at 100 miles an hour when you see or touch each other. It has to do with wanting to be around that person all the time, seeing each other every day, hearing his voice in the silence of your loneliness, imagining his touch and not wanting to be touched by any other, even if he cannot . It is feeling as if there is no difference between your body and his, feeling as if he belongs only and only to you, whether he has given you this right or not. Love does not wait for permissions, It swoops and takes hold of you, and makes you do unimaginable things to be with the one you love. It makes you drive to where he is when you cannot even walk. It is the feeling of murderous rage at even the thought of him or her being or even wanting to be with somebody other than you. None of it is explained, none of it has a reason. The only reason is that you love him or her.
Love is the feeling that you cannot go on without your beloved. It is the feeling that tells you that everything is incomplete without that person. Friendship blossoms when you are similar and have similar goals, but love makes you want to change to be what your beloved likes you to be. It is wanting everything he wants, being everything he wants, and being happiest when you fulfill any wish or desire that he has, and to see him or her happy, glowing and satisfied with you, and holding you in good esteem. All you want to see is love in the eyes of your beloved for you, and you need the love and support of your beloved at each step you take, every endeavour you make in life , in things that are important to you. And you think the world of your beloved, in your eyes he can do no wrong, even if he does, it doesn't seem that wrong!
It is anger too, when attention and affection are denied, if he or she questions why you seem to think they belong to you. It takes the form of fights and tiffs if you cannot spend as much time with each other as you like, or you feel you cannot do enough to make your beloved happy.  You so want to make each other happy it makes you cry when you can't. Because. What makes her happy makes you happy too. You will steal, you will lie, you will take risks, because ...you cannot live without each other.
If you cannot identify with the above, you are not in love with the person you are with. If you can, this is what love is. Enjoy and try to make it last. It is more important than anything you have or can hope to achieve in life. It is worth that much.